英语听力如何脱节父母的影子
2023-04-14 06:20:03 | 人围观 | 评论:
One of the most difficult things about being human is how easily influenced we are by our childhoods – and more particularly, our parents.
The human mind between the ages of one and ten is dauntingly receptive, infinitely attuned to its environment. A somewhat cold, forbidding father or an erratic mother really may be all that are required to breed an elevated degree of anxiety or self-hatred that colours the next eight decades.
And yet this kind of parental imprinting is very hard to spot – and therefore overcome. Most of us would be highly surprised to think that a parent or two might be living inside our heads. The way we think seems to us to be the result of our own will. We seldom come across any voices or attitudes that feel 
actively foreign or externally sourced.
Nevertheless, given how long we were exposed to them and at what formative stages, our parents may have left more of a mark on us than we normally recognise – and may be constantly commenting on our lives from inside like a chorus of unhelpful marionettes.?
When we fail, a voice inside us may say, ‘You should never get above your station.’ When a relationship breaks down, an inner voice might whisper, ‘Never expect anything from others.’ When a nasty rumour spreads about us, we hear: ‘You were always too impulsive.’
It can help to ask ourselves a number of questions about our parents’ views – as experience has taught us to conceive of them.?
We might, without thinking too hard (and thereby allowing our defences to choke our spontaneous insights), finish the following sentences:
My father gave me a feeling that I am a…
My mother left me with a sense that I am a…
My father would now think that I am…
My mother would now think that I am…
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a coven of unfriendly ghosts.
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